I love Dave Chappelle. From his Def Jam poetry, to the always hilarious Chappelle’s Show. And, as always, through his comedy, Chappelle manages to cut right to an important social issue in the clip above. Although the joke is about how men don’t talk about rape because they are too “manly,” Chappelle’s comedy comes from a real place. In the U.S. we don’t talk about men getting raped. And in the U.S., more men are raped then women (thanks to the ever wonderful prison system we have here).
But why don’t we talk about men being raped? Why do men sometimes feel it makes them less of a man that they have been raped? And why did it take until this year, for the FBI to change the definition of rape to include men?
I do not have all the answers, but I do know that we need to talk about it more. We need to teach both boys and girls in school about sexual assault and bad touching. We need to talk about it, because the more we talk about it the less shameful or embarrassing it will seem.
And we also need to let men who have been victims of rape that their is help, and unlike Dave Chappelle said, there is a hotline men can call. It’s RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline which is open 24/7, and the number is 1.800.656.HOPE
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